Every Little Thing

March 9, 2021

Q: What are specific ways I can best deal with stressors and aggravations?

A: Honestly evaluate what you are investing of yourself in way of expectations in each of these situations that allows it to impact you so. You are invested or you wouldn’t care. Running late? Maybe you are invested in appearing responsible, thoughtful. Then, evaluate how much or little control you have. Odds are, when it comes to aggravations, you are upset because something is going “wrong” and you actually have little-to-no control over the situation; if, however, you have control, access what feels best—what makes you happy and proceed accordingly. The world is not served by people making themselves miserable and slaves to expectations. Re-write the narrative if possible in your head. Breathe and breathe again. Love. Envision pouring love and laughter into the situation’s cup. Nothing is rarely so serious that one can’t find love, light, or humor in a situation. Release your investment, your expectations, of any given thing and re-focus the expectations on your response—how you want to feel and sense your reality. For example, you can change “I just wish my child would give me a moment’s peace,” to “I want to respond both with love for her and self-love boundaries in which I treat my child with respect without giving my power away.” It can change from “I need my alone time!” to “I respect that the demands of situations with a child are ever-shifting and I will make the most of the moments by myself.” From “I can’t let someone treat me like that!” to “I hope they can begin to show themselves more love because their outside actions are simply a mirror of what’s happening inside.” From “I deserve this,” to “I set goals and I can allow them to change.” From “I hate that about myself” to “I see this as an opportunity to choose better for myself.”